tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post9132490769532344626..comments2014-01-14T09:02:19.292-05:00Comments on JUXTAPOSE: Wrap upTaniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-37610219887375983342012-01-14T21:37:09.659-05:002012-01-14T21:37:09.659-05:00Of course I remember you! It's a rough stage...Of course I remember you! It's a rough stage, one I'm not all that keen on doing over again…<br />Keep your strength and sanity. Wishing you the best in your journey! It can be a bumpy ride for sure.Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-87401673500277377092012-01-14T11:21:23.282-05:002012-01-14T11:21:23.282-05:00Hello, you perhaps remember me from elsewhere as &...Hello, you perhaps remember me from elsewhere as 'fnord'. Anyway, great read. I'm going through the same thing with my daughter right now (though she's only 15). I'm sure I have a few years of battle left but look forward to the time that I will be in your place and can appropriately let things happen as they will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-16010009772921684022011-12-29T08:43:47.559-05:002011-12-29T08:43:47.559-05:00Hi, Johanna! Been a while. Glad to see you.
I u...Hi, Johanna! Been a while. Glad to see you.<br /><br />I understand you. I get what you're saying and I dare say that I relate. Johanna, it's difficult to face the fact that some folks very close to us are what I can only describe as 'complacent'. They are content to just 'be', nothing needs to change, they are happy in their state. Even if they are not particularly happy, they are too lazy to probe deeper into themselves and their lives and content to just exist. <br /><br />I've teetered on envy myself, because life seems easier for them, but don't envy. Would you trade your complicated and ever evolving personality for theirs? I wouldn't. Not that I have a choice about it.<br /><br />For me, I've had to make peace with the knowledge that some people close to me are just wired differently, and I can't make them be more like me any more than I can change. It's not fair to try. The only expectation that I can have in those cases is a 'you don't have to join me but you'd better not get in my way' attitude. In an ideal world, I THINK that I'd want someone like me around, but who's to say that a pair of wanderers and evolvers wouldn't just go right in two different directions?Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-43693836238568684932011-12-28T23:39:27.887-05:002011-12-28T23:39:27.887-05:00Rough patches force me to reach new conclusions an...Rough patches force me to reach new conclusions and learn new things about myself and, ultimately, become a better and happier person with a more profound understanding about why things go wrong and how I can avoid making the same mistakes again. I'm going through one of those phases now, which is painful but good (and, oh god, exhausting). What I still haven't learned is how to deal with the fact that people close to me are unable and/or unwilling to go through that same process, and actually face themselves and learn something... trying to suck up some wisdom from you here! (Or should I just envy them? In the long run, perhaps one is better off NOT constantly questioning things, evolving, moving, changing? I don't seem to have that choice though.)Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04627332662014931394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-27374682575236071122011-12-28T11:41:15.976-05:002011-12-28T11:41:15.976-05:00You're welcome. Glad you can relate, Jylie.
...You're welcome. Glad you can relate, Jylie.<br /> <br />I'm not afraid to admit that my prior 'moving' oftentimes meant leaving my life in total shambles, throwing it all away and ultimately forcing personal re-invention. I"m not sure why it took me so very long to realize that it's not necessary to throw the baby out with the bathwater. <br /><br />That knowledge makes life a lot easier. ;)Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-36405684396850900942011-12-28T11:25:09.250-05:002011-12-28T11:25:09.250-05:00This post hit home to me; specifically with regard...This post hit home to me; specifically with regard to these two sentences (as well as your final numbered list): "I have to keep moving, and that doesn't mean blowing apart everything that is good right along with the bad. It means allowing yourself continuous evolvement without guilt." Words to remember. Thank you for sharing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com