tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post7233564331759663623..comments2014-01-14T09:02:19.292-05:00Comments on JUXTAPOSE: Sailing the Seas of LifeTaniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-46639453942542566362011-03-31T17:15:31.671-04:002011-03-31T17:15:31.671-04:00My husband and I fell in love to the tunes of the ...My husband and I fell in love to the tunes of the Murder Ballads album, and quickly realised we could have met 10 years earlier when we were both at the same Nick Cave concert (where both cried to Your Funeral My Trial). I'm glad we didn't though... if we had, I doubt we'd still be a couple now.Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04627332662014931394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-59624153533359955482011-03-31T12:32:58.249-04:002011-03-31T12:32:58.249-04:00Oops, hit enter too fast. What I was going to s...Oops, hit enter too fast. What I was going to say is that I absolutely realize how rare long lasting unions are nowadays. Of all our friends who were couples, only one other than us is still together. It's been said by people before," If they don't make it (meaning husband and I), there's no hope for any of us." <br /><br />That's a hell of a lot of pressure, they all better hope we don't divorce next week, or they are all doomed. ;)Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-62750962506112675792011-03-31T12:22:24.379-04:002011-03-31T12:22:24.379-04:00Ditto, to all of it save a few tiny details…. you ...Ditto, to all of it save a few tiny details…. you two have been together a couple of years longer than we have. But yes, you nailed it. Why am I not surprised? <br /><br />It's the seasoned relationship that makes me continue to weather the storms, as you said. It's taken so many years to build the level of trust, comfort and intimacy that we have that I'm not keen on knocking it all down during a rough patch. We've had hard times (which in reality is more like hard years), but I'm a fighter and this is one battle I'm glad I entered into to win. <br /><br />The payoff, in a perfect world, is having that person that's seen you through all of it sitting next to you quietly in the golden years of your life. That image keeps me grounded more than you know.Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848838006253870663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3267898450570263478.post-82779817549291046262011-03-31T12:14:17.811-04:002011-03-31T12:14:17.811-04:00Great analogy. I love to hear a perspective so clo...Great analogy. I love to hear a perspective so close to my own. You know how rare it is to find someone you connect with so deeply and can withstand the test of time and change with? Like you, and for the same reasons, I'd never do it again.<br /><br />I've often said to the husband how happy I am that we didn't throw in the towel during our most difficult times. It would have been the easy way out, though. What can I say, I'm a glutton for punishment. But really, to be where we are in a long lasting, well aged, mature relationship is so satisfying and rewarding. I really am in awe of the things we have persevered through. <br /><br />Damon and I will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary next month. We've been together almost 17 years. Come November, I will have been with him over half my entire life. This seems insane to me.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong, like you, I have no delusions that we are infallible and immune to destruction. But I'm really enjoying where we're at right now.<br /><br />As you said, being best friends, raising children ... hell, growing up together! What an incredible bond.<br /><br />I understand when people say they envy what my husband and I have. Our intimacy and ability to laugh and love together. To enjoy life side by side.<br /><br />What they don't mention are the battles. The clashing of the titans. We know one another so well that we know exactly what buttons to push to piss the other off, to wound, to really dig in deep when we are unhappy. When things are good, they are positively sinful with delight. When things are bad, watch out, because we need to make sure the guns and big knives are stashed safely away so we don't make any rash mistakes. <br /><br />These relationships are absolutely like raging seas of crashing waves. Constantly threatening to drown you in either calamity or bliss.<br /><br />I wouldn't have it any other way. Goldilockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10322118206612228581noreply@blogger.com